Regarding the falling asleep issue, my guess is that you probably were too compassionate when the whole thing started, thinking that he was physically exhausted from work and cutting him some slack. Now you recognize there is a psychological component here, which I have learned doesn't get you anywhere to try to analyze ( okay, a little analysis...he needs to hold back on you to keep a sense of himself, or he needs to disappoint and see that you aren't the bad mommy, or...). The point is, you have to go back to a behavioral plan. Now that the baby is imminent you will have some time off from the sex, and it's a good chance to define what you need( as if you'll have the time, LOL). Establish in your mind a frequency that you can live with that is non- negotiable. If the falling asleep occurs during "extra" times it can be overlooked, but not if he is not maintaining the frequency that you both agree to. Then there is no compassion, and he has to be heavily confronted.
Just curious... what does he say the tiredness is all about? Do you ever confront him as it is happening? Another thing is...does he realize how abolutely awful you feel about this? Our C said that my H doesn't "hear" when my feelings are hurt( even when I think I am doing a good job communicating) and that I have to act like he is deaf and take a megaphone and sort of blast him.
Anyway...just some thoughts for you after the baby is born (I know you're a strong person but you may need more than the 3 minutes I originally gave you). You know my mantra right now is to just chill.
Glad the date was ok.
Can't wait to hear about the baby...hoping this 3rd one will go quicker! Hugggs to you HP! xoxo IHJ
