GGB and Honey, I don't want to scare you, but bf and I don't have any kids and we've gone through EXACTLY the same scenarios that you both describe-- talk about parallel universes!! If your respective spouses' LD is due to circumstances, then one would hope that things would resolve themselves once the circumstances change. (Unless, as Honey points out, by then you're so freakin' tired of beating your head against a brick wall that you just don't give a rat's a$$ any more...) But if it's Just the Way They Are... then welcome to my world... plenty of time, no one else around, out in the country, don't have to get up early for work... but still no sex.
It's funny... my bf had declined my advances sooo many times, and has not followed through on his verbal overtures, and has outright rejected me a few times... and I have outright rejected him exactly ONCE. He sat on the couch next to me when I was in a really dark bad mood and put his arm around me and I sat there for a few minutes, then said I was going to bed, got up and left. He has dwelled on that incident... he even brought it up in front of the C... how I had REJECTED him (is that violin music in the background?)(is that sarcasm in my tone?). ONE TIME and he's got it on the front page of the newspaper in 72 pt. type. Geez... when they get a rejection or even a lukewarm response it's a federal case, but we're supposed to take repeated rejection in stride...
