One downer to the night was that, upon returning home from the date and getting babysitters home, H tells me that he had a conversation with a coworker and the guy was saying that instead of taking his wife on a date alone, he would much rather spend an evening with his wife and their two daughters.
I said, Yeah but he's not with those kids 24 hrs a day and neither are you. The wives need to get away from the children and their responsibilities once in a while.
H said, Oh yeah I forgot about that part.

But he maintained that as the provider and protector of our family, he felt anxious and uneasy when we turned them over to someone else and just felt more relaxed when we were all together.
"In other words, I prefer to be with our whole family together instead of just you."

(oh wives out there wouldn't you just melt to be referred to as "just you"??! Such a romantic devil he is..)

This really hurt my feelings but I realized that he is entitled to his opinion. I said Well I wish you wouldn't have said this as soon as we returned from our date because now I feel stupid that I pushed so hard for this date--I had no idea that you prefer to be together as a family instead of going on dates. I mean, H, we do EVERYTHING as a family so it is not like this is something that you have to worry about often.

I asked him if he thought it was important for H's and W's to spend time together anyway, even if their inclination was to be with the kids. He said yes definitely; it sets good example, blah blah.
But it was clear that he was thinking this was a sacrifice to make to show your kids a good example instead of it being something that he looks forward to..being with "just me".

He kept saying, over and over, that once our kids are grown everything will be different. That right now, he just feels so responsible for them that he cannot relax when he knows they are being cared for by someone other than him or I. Not being able to relax ruins the evening with me--not that he doesn't want to be with me.

I know what he is saying but lemme say this:

It totally sucks to crave and want someone and to know, without a doubt, that it is not returned in kind.

So our first date of the year and night out without the kiddies was a small success. I wouldn't call it a raging smashing success but it was nice.
Gotta start somewhere. If I left it up to him, I don't think we'd spend an evening away from them, ever.
Then in twenty years when I had no feelings left for him he'd be crying in his soup wondering where it all went wrong.

That's all for now. Hope all of you are having happy and peaceful weekends.

P.S. I was having contractions yesterday 15 minutes apart and I told my husband. His reply: Oh great, that means you'll have the baby in about 2 weeks.
LOL

I do have overdue babies and it takes me FOREVER to get them out, long labors and slow ctx.
Oh well something is starting so it will hopefully be sometime in the next week to ten days.