Living Again!

[sage]

Pam --

But D WILL NOT call me back or answer e-mails. If I don't happen to catch him at his desk or at the house there is no contact with him.

All that does is stress me out and tear me up.

OK...first off, I'm very sorry that he's being unresponsive...so, you can keep trying the same old, same old...or you can try going about it a different way...

I don't know that we're gonna solve the "will D call me back" but maybe we can solve the "will we get these 5 things done" issue.

So...my suggestion is that YOU come up with a list of things that need to be done, proposed "owners", a timeline, etc. Validate it with your realtor (ASSuming that you guys have agreed on who will represent the house?).

Then send it to David and say "this is what I'm proposing. I'm happy to discuss it with you if you disagree with any of it. If I don't here from you by a week from now I'm assuming that you're in agreement."

You could even cc your lawyer.

My fear, though, is that you guys already HAVE a legal agreement that has somehow gotten lost.

WHAT was agreed to at the divorce? (You don't have to post it -- and I'd recommend that you DON'T but think about it and fold it into your proposal).

I'm also going to say (bluntly but not without compassion) that you've indicated that you've "gone off" on D of late...DB'ing is similar pre and post Divorce, Pam...if you want to encourage conversation, you have to make it "safe".

Sage