Living Again!

[psluke]

Well, I am not really comfortable with it, but felt it wasn't my place to tell G what to respond to his ex. So here is his e-mail.

Hi J,

How about them Cards!!! They were 2 or 3 plays away from the upset.

I haven't heard from you in a while. How's it going with you? How are your Folks, Granddad, G, K and J? I hope all are in good health and spirits. I turned down another great west adventure with K L.

I've been very busy. It's amazing how much fun I'm having. I've taken 6 trips this year. One was the Montreal Jazz fest. What a great event and Montreal is a marvelous city to spend time in (during the summer.) I've also gone on 3 golf trips (Orlando, Hilton Head and Myrtle Beach.)

Enough about me and back to the subject at hand. I'm sure this is interesting with you getting one side and me the other. Here's my brief synopsis.....

Pam's ready to move on. She put money into the house that added value before the divorce was final. She has purchased a new house and moved. The house on P-K is the last thing that holds them together and she wants to cut it loose.

She doesn't go by the house everyday anymore, but when she does she is finding things that are breaking. She calls David (just like you would do - now you probably call your Daddy). She would like to know that he got the message and reacted to it.

The Realtor gave them a list of outside items that need to be completed before the house should go on the market. Has David asked for a received the inside list?

She'd like to know how the work is going. David doesn't reply. Maybe it's their past history - maybe they don't communicate very well. Imagine that -- a married couple (make that ex) that doesn't communicate well.:) She has gotten mixed signals, poor communication and procrastination from David since he filed for the divorce.

It took 17 months for the divorce to go through. That's ridicules considering David is the person that filed for divorce. Most of it was because he wouldn't do anything or make a decision. She doesn't want the house to take that long. Pam wants the house on the market December 1st. Will it be ready?

Since David and Pam have trouble communicating she thought that I would have better luck. You know the Engineer to Engineer thing. We could talk about task completion, Gantt charts, milestones and maybe it would get done quicker. I don't really want to do it, but I would to help out a friend.

I think that if David would develop a task list with the proposed and actual completion dates and send Pam an e-mail on the same day every week with an update of that weeks activities that would satisfy her.

In closing all I have to say is -- GET IT DONE -- David wanted this divorce and this is the last thing that keeps him in her life. Get over it move on.....

G

Here's an example

Task Proposed completion date Actual completion date Weekly activity update
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