G has not replied to J yet. Yesterday he was trying to come up with ways to get at J and get her mad at D and to push him on the house sale. Well, as you can see I was pretty upset yesterday although my preference is a better way to poke her to use G's term than to poke at D.
When I get upset like that it generally doesn't last too long and today I feel it is meddling and trying to control the sitch if we try to direct an answer to get a desired response from her to then get a desired response from D.
I called G this morning and expressed this, he says no, it is all about leverage and that I have an interest in this house and I am getting no response from D.
I understand he is looking at it as a means to help accomplish an end. He sees this as getting her to push D so the house gets sold quicker.
Maybe it is because D was nice to me yesterday when I was at the house, he gave me one of his phones and offered me one of his crock pots. But I know when I am hurting or angry I might want to do something but really it is his life and NOT my place to stir up strife. But G sees it more as just business while I am looking at the emotional side.
When I called this morning he said he would send me the e-mail to look at before he responds to her.
I said it really isn't any of my business, that it is an e-mail to him from his ex.
He said but it is all about your house sitch so it does concern you, we didn't exactly reach an understanding.
Of course the fact that I caught him brushing his teeth probably didn't help.
My question is how to handle responding to G about his response to J and how is best to respond to J?
My suggestion was to just give her a short response saying, As far as he is aware of I am not trying to stall on the house and that he has offered to deal with D because I am having a difficult time with him on the house or something to that effect. It doesn't give her much info and it answers her direct questions.
I hope I made sense to someone here, as I am rather rattled.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
