Living Again!

[psluke]

Good Morning everyone,

Really need some clear logical thinking help this morning.

First some facts:

At D and I's meeting with the A's in like May I think it was the house was supposed to be got ready to go on the market in 30 days. We each were supposed to get our cr*p, (my A's term), out and get it presentable. Nothing happened on that, we neither one discussed it even.

Divorce was final in July but papers didn't come till August and still nothing was done to get the house ready to sell.

Looking at this after the fact I don't feel either A was too great on writing up things on the house but D's built in more protection for him than mine did for me.

What they say is while I am still in the house I am supposed to coordinate any inside repairs we agree upon and he is supposed to take care of any outside repairs. It is not specified who is to pay for repairs, it was implied in discussions that it would be D because of the difference in income level. But whoever pays for them that comes out of the equity before it is split.

Now we get to the part that if I were strictly being financial oriented, it is in my best interest at this point for us to sell the house quickly, because he gets to pull house payments he makes after Aug. 1st out before the equity is split. So he isn't getting hurt by the house sitting but I am actually losing money.

But I haven't been pushing because I am still emotionally attached to the house, plus to push him means unpleasantness and I am a pretty good conflict avoider myself.

This is mainly why G has offered his assistance. Because he can look at it unemotionally and see what needs to be done. Plus D not returning my phone calls and being unreachable is driving me nuts as I have no idea what his plans are on the house at all.

G says he won't mind to call J's for him if necessary and I won't do that ever again.

So actually if anyone is stalling it is him as he doesn't return messages about the house or discuss needed repairs.