Well, everyone that was reading my thread last year probably remembers the episode that I went through with Frostbyte retching all the blood and my wonderful head first dive into the washing machine.
I was having a major STRESS day at work Friday as I was trying to schedule the electricians to work on my light and fan and light that my friend never did make it back down to work on. Then I had to call the plumbers for some warranty work in the house so asked them about hooking up the dryer.
Work was going badly because a lot of my work is done online on the company web site. Our internet was down. So I was sitting and building stress.
Told my boss I was taking my work and going home to try to make sure the plumbers got to my dryer and that I would get more work done at home plus some laundry!
Everything got done except the supplier had sent me the wrong size bulbs for my hall light, but at least it is up now.
The plumbers had an awful time with my dryer, apparently they are using the wrong size pipe in the houses and the 4" flex doesn't fit it.
So this weekend I got some major work done on my bedroom. There is a clear path through it now.
Back to the FB episode. Friday he started retching and kept it up, I couldn't get him stopped and was so afraid it was going to go into what it did last year. I skipped dinner with the guys, but they understood.
Then Saturday Breeze, my little old lady started with the retching, Saturday night was a long one. Next Shara started. Thankfully no one went till it became bloody!!!!
They all seem to be feeling much better now. I also missed meeting T for dinner Saturday night as I didn't want to leave the kids.
Saw a snake in my back yard, not too impressed by that as I'm not sure what kind it is!!!!!!!
Stopped by PK Sunday morning and the kitchen floor was wet. Left D vm. He shuts his cell phone off on the weekends and evenings now so the only thing I can do is leave him a vm.
Then this morning left him vm at work to please call me about the refrigerator when he got a chance.
Later in the day, as no response from him, (imagine that!), I left another vm, just letting him know that I was sorry he didn't seem to be able to bring himself to deal with me even the amount necessary to work on the house and that I had left G a vm about discussing his taking over my share of PK.
Surprise, surprise D called me back shortly after that, but I don't want to do this crap every time the house needs something or we need to discuss something. I don't want to call him at J's but G said he doesn't mind that at all. I think he might get some satisfaction out of this deal and at least he won't make the emotional decisions I would on the house, his will be based on logic and finances the same as D's.
So tomorrow night G and I are going to dinner. I asked if he had a preference and he said my choice. So there is this little restaurant, nothing fancy, but it overlooks the river and the trees are beautiful right now. It is at least a half hour away and I asked G if he minded as I had been wanting to go there. He said is it that good? He is big into restaurants. I said no, it is the ambiance, the rocking chairs on the deck overlooking the river. He had said he wants to ask my opinion on a couple of things so I figured if he wants to talk a nice relaxing atmosphere is best. I have no idea what he could possibly want my opinion on, but my curiosity is up.
I am really looking forward to going out there, hope nothing comes up that he can't make it.
I called and made reservations tonight, used his name as I didn't figure he would appreciate responding to Lukenbill.
Read several of D and I's joint threads tonight looking for a post from Opt that I wanted to send to G on communication. We have seemed to have some miscommunications here lately and I had commented on the phone that I didn't think he was with me and he said maybe not or maybe I am and you don't realize it. So I thought immediately of Opt's post and decided to share it with G.
It was sad and at the same time I'm glad I'm not still in that spot.
There were posts from D that he sounds so like the man I married in them. But that isn't the man I am currently faced with dealing on the house with, I guess who I am dealing with now is J's steady/fiance and that is a different person than the one I married. If G takes over dealing with him I won't have to deal with him at all, actually won't have to see or speak to him again until probably the house closing. I think that would be best to help me move forward.
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"