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#350877 10/07/04 12:13 PM
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Good Morning Pam,

I guess my impatience to feel better NOW, helps keep me feeling down because I get frustrated that I still have these down spells. Although this is the worst one I have had in a long time and I belive it was that way because I was physically worn out with the two houses and the move. I feel better physically and that always helps my mental attitude.

I suppose if I try to crawl under the bed you are going to come down and drag me out???


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so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
#350878 10/07/04 12:25 PM
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Hi Pam - Definitely time to be kind to yourself. I recall Betsey's wonderful advice whan I was down with flu - take a break!

I also think we have the tendency to let some success snowball our expectations, just so easy to expect more from ourselves, isn't it?

Wishing you a more relaxing Thursday. Slowly


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Hi Slowly,

I guess I need it. G is telling me the same thing, that the work in the house will still be there, to relax and have some fun.

So tomorrow night I am going to dinner with G's psychologist friend S and another friend T that was at B's birthday party. S instructed me to meet at T's condo and we are going across the river to an Italian restaurant. So probably one I have never been too. I tried to cancel and G gave me a hard time. He headed out of town today or otherwise he would have probably threatened to pick me up.

These guys have all been amazingly supportive. Probably because they have all been through a divorce and know J as well.

I have mentioned to G the possibility of having part of my interest in PK and him taking over dealing with D so I don't have to any more. I think dealing with D is keeping me stuck a bit.

Mostly the frustration of not being able to reach him. Plus G would not make the emotional decisions that I would make on the house.

Not sure which D would prefer to deal with, emotional me, or the man whose wife he cheated with twice.


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#350880 10/07/04 03:28 PM
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Hey pam - Isn't it just great to have wonderful friends?
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Not sure which D would prefer to deal with, emotional me, or the man whose wife he cheated with twice.


You know what D prefers is not your problem, right? You need to go with the flow of what works for you, sweetie... In this case, the best dbing is going to be in putting yourself first, me thinks.

Hugs, Slowly


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Quote:

You know what D prefers is not your problem, right?


Why is it so hard for me to get this through my head?

According to D I am a selfish B*tch, should be no problem to put myself first. Which I know I do at times, especially when I get crappy emotional.

You are so right Slowly, it is great to have wonderful friends!


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#350882 10/08/04 10:05 AM
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Pammy, Pammy,

Can't believe that I beat you on to the board this am. Maybe this is a good sign that you're sleeping in a little?

Others are giving you good advice regarding PK so I don't really have too much to add, just good thoughts for your day and a big hug.

Pam

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Hey Ms. Pam,

How's the day looking so far???



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Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
#350884 10/09/04 12:07 PM
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Hi Pam,

I didn't sleep in yesterday, just didn't really feel in the mood to post. Today I woke up at 5 but went back to sleep till 7!! That was as long as the shelties could stand for me to stay in bed.


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#350885 10/09/04 12:10 PM
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Hi Sage,

Yesterday was up and down. FB was sick yesterday afternoon so I didn't go to dinner. I was afraid he would go into the throwing up blood like he did last year.

But the electricians have my bedroom fan and light working now. The plumbers got the hose on my dryer and I had the cord on right so I am doing laundry!!!!!!!!!!

Today laundry and more house organizing.


Pam

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so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
#350886 10/09/04 12:13 PM
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Good Morning Pam

I too have a domestic weekend planned! Got to catch up with so many chores. And I plan a lie in tomorrow morning.

Livnlearn


"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
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