I am up and about early too. Didn't sleep very well as I think that in the back of my head I am fretting abut H being on his way to Brazil. Thought stopping has never been my strong suit.
I see that you and D still haven't worked out the intricacies of the separation of responsibilities. yuk. I too have had interactions where it seems like even the nonaccusatory things that I say come out sounding like a court indictment. Not saying that is what you are doing, just saying that I know that it is hard when we want to say the right things and because we are so emotionally involved they all sound wrong to the recipient.
Just keep perservering.
I have seen you say several times that D got what he wanted ie. the D. I would tend to think that on some level that is true, but on some other levels it isn't. I am not sure that any one truly ever wants a D, they just can't see any hope or any other option or don't want to work on it, etc.
So even though D got what he thinks he wanted, it doesn't mean that it's easy for him or that he doesn't have feelings abou it.
I am sure that there are a lot of feelings intertwined in all of these interactions.
Hang in there and don't necc be the one to always pick up the slack concerning PK. Some of it belongs to him and he will need to figure that out.
