TL, Truly it is not meant to criticize..just to point out ways in which there is room for improvement. Notice that I am pointing the finger as much at your W as you. The same could be done with my marriage...my H does dumbass things like fall asleep during foreplay (more often than not) and I do dumbass things like act cold and distant the next day. So we are not being mean, just pointing out that we all do dumb things. Why not just say, Yeah that was stupid of me.... and let it go? Oh and I do lots more dumb things than acting cold and distant but they are specific to my situation and would elicit a "huh?" response. My H falling asleep during foreplay seems to be something that a lot of people can relate to on this board.
Why not make some calls to counselors that specialize in helping couples deal with ED? I think you two would do great because you are so obviously in love and want to work it out...high motivation is half the battle, wouldn't you say?
