As most of you have already guessed or at least thougth TL is my wonderful husband I am so lucky to be married to someone who is willing to try anything to make our R & M last. I need to let everyone know however that after 5 years of trying everything I possibly can ie: books,counselling, doctors, talking, argueing , begging, pleading and more. I have heard all of it and I still dont necessarily believe that my huband is attracted to me in the least. I know I will hear from all of you and I WILL listen . Whoever said that I might be pushing my problems off on the ED or LD.... I dont agree at all. I was VERY secure in my sexuality and femininty when we began dating... When your advances as HDW get pushed aside as not important enough to "waste" the time or energy it tends to have a direct affect on how one feels about oneself. Even getting the so called looks from other men do nothing but embarrass me and make me feel uncomfortable.