One of the things I did wrong in the pre-bomb era was this: I loved my H and appreciated many of the things he did for me, but while I had all these nice thoughts about him, I didn't SHOW or TELL them to him. Imagine that, my H was not a mind-reader!!!!
So one of the things I have changed is to try to express those thoughts more often when I have them. This is still difficult at times because I am rather an introvert and live in my own head a lot.
Last night, as we were falling asleep, H rolled over and wrapped his arms around me and spooned me in a way that I have always loved. So I just told him "I love it when you do that".
Can you believe, after 20 years of marriage, that I'm not sure I ever told him that I loved it when he spooned me that way?
And can you imagine how good it would feel if you did something for your spouse and they said that to you?
And how simple is that to say??
Lord knows we're not usually tongue-tied when it comes to telling them what they are doing that we DON'T like!
So try today to actually TELL your spouse one of the good thoughts you have about them.
