Hi Meredith - Oh boy, I can relate to so much of what you are posting. In my case, I thought that if discussing the affair, and especially the why of it, was going to be too difficult, I could shelve it, as there was much in our R to rebuild. We are both different people, and should expect a different R. But then I find that NG is just too comfortable with his old habits, which I no longer find acceptable Quite, quite frustrating, and yes, hurtful.

Do you know what it is about your current set-up that H finds more attractive? Apart from it being what he knows and is comfortable with, what about the day to day living in this way that works better for him?

The objectives look great though Slowly

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