Here and Now - Living in the PRESENT!

[Meredith]

Ah yes…feeling important. Seems like such a simple thing, no?

That is where a lot of my resentments lie also. I haven’t felt important, respected, loved, etc by my H’s past actions…and that causes my defenses to soar when I think I’m being put back into that position.

I guess the most important thing to do is to ask yourself how you want to remember this story tomorrow…in a week…month…whenever. Chances are, you’ll look back and wonder what the heck you were thinking by getting so upset by that little incident – I know I have thought that plenty of times. But when you’re in the thick of it, those old feelings seem so real and present that its terribly difficult to distinguish what IS from what WAS.

Maybe it would even help to remember that you (and me ) will be okay regardless of the choice that they make. So what if they drive off into the sunset, off a cliff, into the arms of an OW! We’re okay…we’re strong…we’re capable…and let’s not forget - we have survived that before.

One of the many books I’ve read over the past year spells out that any anger over a given situation is a result of an unresolved internal issue. The key is to identify that issue, resolve it, and leave it in the past. Sure, and just stand on one foot and juggle while doing all that, its that simple!

We’ll get there, Myrrh…we’ve got the right tools and the right support. It’s just a matter of practice!