Quote: Just out of curiosity, has she ever presented you with some concrete ways in which you can support her through her transition? What was your response to that?
When she moved here, I took care of anything she asked me to. Once, I stepped over the line and sent her links to several companies who handle credit card transactions (something she did not ask for) and she got upset with me. Over the past year I have done many things: I drop off DD3 at school when W has a morning appointment; I did the mid-day transfer from school to babysitter about 1/3 of the time; I almost always picked up DD3 from babysitter and spent from 3:45 to 7pm taking care of her until W got home; during that time I would cook, dust, etc., to make it easy for W to come home and not see a bunch of stuff she had to take care of so she could just get in her "comfy clothes" and play with DD3, then collapse in front of tv at bedtime.
Now, when I ask her what I can do, she is pretty vague: listen to her, offer help when she asks, offer "support" when she doesn't ask for it. It's a moving target to me.
I just talked to my old counselor and got a name of one for her. Now, I have to see if she will go. This is one horse that you often can't even lead to water, much less make it drink.
I am really trying to be compassionate toward her.
