Quote: Don't you find it interesting how your wife views you as more of an advisary than as a allie? That she somehow thinks that your purpose in life is to do all in your power not to help her, or trip her up, or make her feel miserable? That she somehow believes you are trying to control her?
Funny how that "distorted view" exists with LDWs who deflect all questions with questions, refuse to own up to responsibility for the R and M problems, and view all attempts by the HDH at talking about things as "attacks" on themselves.
In my world, I thought about telling my W that I was her ally, not her adversary. I thought about telling my W that I wanted us to "control things" as equals, where we each took responsibility for bringing up M issues when we felt out of balance. I decided that this would convey to her that I was weak and powerless against her whims. My W chooses to ignore the problems. hairdog's probably does too.
