I just got here today... I actually went out in the world instead of spending all morning on this board. Ahhh, the outside world's not all it's cracked up to be.

Hair, what if you set up the basement as sort of an "Adults Only Getaway Zone." If she has times she needs to be alone, she can go there. If you have times you want to be alone, you can go there. It would be a neutral zone (like in Star Trek) or a demilitarized zone (like in Viet Nam). You could put some stuff in there you both like... tv, vcr, daybed, books, pictures. But the decor would emphasize you as adults, not as parents. Maybe, in an ideal universe, it could become a playroom for you two. Mabye some ML could even take place there. There would be only one rule: no arguing there, nothing negative. Just play, alone or together. Just an idea. Sorry things are so cr-ppy right now.