Quote: And, BTW, it's my premise that within a marriage, her boobs are also joint property, and therefore yours to squeeze (and fondle and lick) as you please. As long as you treat each other's parts nicely, seems like they should up always up for sharing.
I'm hoping that you are just kidding around... 'cuz the way I see it, honey, my boobs are my boobs and they are definitely NOT joint property of the marriage.
Corri
Maybe joint property is not the right wording. But in a R, I like full access to his body-- and pretty much grant him full access to mine. I think it makes sense to settle this stuff early on-- in some cases, I have actually had conversations along these lines. ("anything off limits?" "do you like it when I do this"?) In some cases, I've learned that a partner pretty much expects that inviting me into the bed equates to full access. In other cases, partners have not been so verbal/comfortable explaining.
But when I'm "with" someone, I like to think that I have access to them, their time, their body. Not without limits or consideration, of course. But that if I need to talk, they'll make time for me. That it's okay to grope them or show affection. I tend to think these things are reciprocol-- and as such, when I'm in a R, I think he has access to me in the same way. It's fine with me (in fact I love it) for him to come up behind and squeeze my butt, or reach around and caress me, or kiss the back of my neck. I think it should be fine for his (or my) hands to wander watching TV or lying in bed.
I've never been in a R where any part of me was "off limits" as the rule. I like being fondled and touched, I'm part lap cat, I guess. So maybe my breasts aren't "joint property" but they are closer to that, than to "off limits".
Naturally, if I am mad, hysterically crying, or suffering from near fatal cramps, I might say "not now". But as a rule, even when I am sad or stressed or disappointed, I find sex is a great way to cheer back up.... so I rarely say "not now".
