I would go ballistic if W ever tried to force me out of the bedroom. I remember she used to try to do it occasionally years ago, and this was when we were actually having sex.
You're right to suggest to W that if she needs to have some time and space, she can go and find that space. The basement could become a sort of retreat for stressed out spouses, regardless of gender. But hold your ground on the bedroom. It's a very strategic piece of real estate.
Full disclosure here, I don't technically follow my own advice. I abandoned the family bed and sleep alone most of the time in what should be the marital bed. I'm warming it up for her.
