Hairdog, that's a perfect email. Our bedroom, our bed. But, I'd tell her if she needs time alone, SHE can go to the basement.
And, BTW, it's my premise that within a marriage, her boobs are also joint property, and therefore yours to squeeze (and fondle and lick) as you please. As long as you treat each other's parts nicely, seems like they should up always up for sharing. I think nicely is defined by the person they are attached to, but it has to do with things like "no teeth" or even "too ticklish", not whether or not they can be touched!
I realize that for now, Mrs HD is not up to hearing that her boobs are joint property, but you made a damned good start with the bed/bedroom ownership.
Perhaps your next hurdle is about how touching in your sleep is not something that deserves any fussing? After all, how can you be held accountable for something you do in your sleep????
