Okay, enough already. I'll stay in the bedroom. Sheesh.
Corri, I liked your statement: "Let the notion "I can move to the basement anytime I want' be the power you need to stay in the bedroom." This is so helpful. And your suggestion about falling asleep on the couch and letting her go to bed first is a good one, too. I was actually getting kind of buzzed about having some new "space" downstairs, and that's not the direction I needed to be moving.
What I think I need to say to her is, "this is OUR room. It is OUR bed. It is OUR house. You need to recognize that and respect it. If there is some time when you need some private time in a room in which you feel safe, try to ask nicely and I will consider sleeping elsewhere. But stop forcing me out...it just makes me want to dig my heels in, and I know you are a heel-digger, too, so you should be able to respect that from me."
So I'll stay there. But if I get caught squeezing her boob in the middle of the night, it's YOUR fault, SSMers.
