Take some of the power back that currently resides with her.
I think she needs a strong man but would NEVER admit it. She wants to see you calling her on her bullsh!t and you did just that.
I think that her saying that she needs adjustment time is legitimate...but I wouldn't accept that as an excuse for why it's ok to shut your partner out. I would respond to that that you are willing to do whatever it takes to make her adjustment more pleasant EXCEPT sacrifice your marriage in the process.
I too had to threaten to move out of our bedroom to get his attention. I was ready to do it too and had called around, shopping for beds.
My vote is to stay in the basement til she is ready to work on things SEXUALLY. Didja hear that Mrs.HD?! SEXUALLY. Not emotionally or words of affirmationally or acts of serviceally but SEXUALLY!!!!!!!!
