On the subject of "feeling taken advantage of," my W is in the habit of going away for a few days and giving me a long list of things to do. When she returns and inevitably, one of the things didn't get done, she nails me for that one thing, no matter how many things I actually did do. The key to not being walked all over on these occasions is to take the offensive. Her absence causes us all a lot of hassle. I have a tirade ready if necessary. But I don't use it if she acts all nice. But if I small one of her patented complaints coming, I'm like a ton of bricks. It's funny, but if my tirade is justified, she doesn't get angry, she just lays off.
I am the one that wants a sexual relationship, but I also like to have some time to chill. W acts as if a day unplanned is a day wasted.
