CAC4 try to see the shades of gray. Being ready to end a relationship has many levels, Living in another room of the house, seperation for a short time or a long time, and even divorcing and possibily remarrying the same W again.
I used to feel taken advantage of in my R, wanted to avoid the angry remarks of W, and was told by W she did not have to worry about me being unfaithful to her because "NO BODY would ever want me." W was going to buy "Her self a condo." I finally got up the nerve and said go ahead. And do not expect me to dog sit, change channels (entertainment center gets locked up and you can not make any changes), or explain any investment litature to you.
Things are chainging for the better for me. I applied some ideas about making me happy. W still has issues with me, but I refuse to play her game without consequences that I think she would regret.
I am not suggesting anyone be mean or selfish. Just be aware of crap and do not let crap run your R. If you let gargage hapen over and over again, resentment builds, and how can 10+ years resentment lead to a loving relationship?
OG Lou Setting appropiate and firm boundries. Getting more respect from family.
