So what she is saying is, as long as she gets her way, you are trustable. If she does not get her way, you are to not be trusted?
Hm. Yep. I pulled this one with my H, too. It's crap, HD. The reason I know it is crap is because, like I said, I pulled this with my H thinking the house thing was the cure. Nope. It was just another power play between us. We did eventually move, and things did eventually improve, but it wasn't because of the new house. As a matter of fact, I asked him for a D in our new house.
What I came to realize is, yes, I do like the house I am in better than the one I was in... that's just my preference... but I love my H and my family, and because of that, I could give a shiit less where we live as long as I have my H and my family to love. Love makes the home. Not the house.
Your wife, though I'm sure she has wonderful attributes or you wouldn't love her, is feeding you a load of crap so high and so deep you can't tell which end is up.
Yes. The two of you have trust issues. And respect issues. And power play issues. And communication issues. And boundary issues. Which all lead to lack of intimacy issues...
And you don't build trust or destroy trust with a new house.
Cac4, you misread my post. The day you are ready to walk away from your marriage is the day you no longer 'need' your spouse. On that day, you make the decision to love them, not 'need' them. There's a big dif.
