The thing that gets me is that she has made such a big deal out of a recent "mistake" I made, and how it has eroded her trust in me. This mistake was how I handled her wish to buy a house out in the country. I thought about all the pros and cons and told her that I was not interested in moving. She got very upset with me and told me I wasn't considering her feelings. Well, I was considering her feelings, but thought that it was more important to look at the stresses such a move would put on my relationship with the kids, getting to school events, etc. Anyway, she said that I didn't really discuss the matter with her, and instead, announced my answer. She has held this up to me as a BIG EVENT from which she learned that I am NOT TO BE TRUSTED.
So, what am I supposed to make of a woman who threatens to call 911 and tell the police that I am abusing her, just so I will get out of HER bed? I'd say that's a trust breaker.
As far as reaching the day I am strong enough to walk away from the M, I'm there. I have no illusions left. I am doubtful that she will ever make a change for the better.
The only monkey wrench in the works, bless her heart, is my DD3. And that is what I need to figure out. Is she better off living with a single mom and seeing Dad on every other weekend (or less often, if W moves away?) Or is she better off living in a house where mom and dad don't trust each other and don't particularly care for one another?
