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How about just insisting that she recognizes that your feelings are just as important as her bodily comfort at the moment.

This is good, Mojo. And a great analogy to the kid sitting on your lap, too.
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She can enforce her boundaries in ways that are affectionate and polite rather than ways that are brusque and rude.

Ooh, another good one. Not that merely saying, "too hot" is necessarily rude, but it's definitely not very loving.

Sometimes, if you love someone, you have to put up with a bit of discomfort.

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