Quote: And how do you answer that? H: But I really WANT to touch you? No, she'd just say, too bad...it's too hot, and (the ol') until you are okay with me saying "no" then I won't feel like saying "yes."
If she does not feel like being touched -- for whatever reason -- why should I put my "wants" before hers? Do I just leave her with, "I just want you to know that I want to touch you; that when you push my hand away and I don't get to touch you for several days in a row, it leaves me feeling emotionally isolated from you"?
Maybe the answer is obvious, but right now it's not.
Hairdog, if I knew the answer to THAT, I wouldn't be here. This is EXACTLY the kinds of things my wife does, and I have struggled and (I guess) failed, because there's absolutely no way for me to NOT take it personally. Lips turned away so that a kiss turns into a peck on the cheek . . . a leg moved away from mine in bed . . . a "suggestive" I-M exchange skillfully diverted into another direction . . . these things just KILL me, and I've never been able to successfully "call" her on it at the time. I bring them up LATER, when we have our big fights/discussions about the HD/LD thing, but never with any real resolution.
All of the psychological gobbledegook aside, how is a warm-blooded human being NOT supposed to take it personally when the woman they love more than anyone else in the world turns them away with these moves?
Choc., who can RELATE, but unfortunately has no solutions for you...
