Quote: I don't think I ever gave her the chance to initiate. I'm kind of an Energizer Bunny that way.
Did you get the feeling that she was more "into it" back then. I mean not just less rejecting, but actually pro-active or sex positive. Did she ever make suggestions or take charge of the action once you were already going? My H has told me that in the other relationships in which he was LD, he didn't start out LD but became that way over time and he doesn't seem LD in the context of any individual encounter. I guess I'm wondering if your W has never really liked sex or is prone to becoming LD in relationships or is just LD in terms of your relationship or just happened to become LD while in a relationship with you. I guess I feel like the more it has to do with your relationship, the easier it is to find a solution. In the other situations, the current relationship is just an easy excuse for the problem. I guess the solution is the same in any case, but it might be helpful to know how much resistance you might encounter.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
