However, one of the ways of reinforcing your own sobriety is to refrain from being around the past associates with whom you used to drink.
I only brought that up, with all the other stuff in the list, to illustrate the various pressures and dynamics at work in his life at the moment. One of his reasons for not wanting sex is because of all the pressures on him. The therapist and I are the only two people in his life who are supporting him in his new attempts to be healthy.
And I want sex, so that makes me a source of stress, too, and not entirely safe.
At least the therapist doesn't want sex, so bf is free from pressure there (except financial-- no insurance coverage for this, so writing that check hurts!). (We take turns paying.)
