I really didn't mean to say that I think D is a good option. If I did, I probably wouldn't be here myself. I really don't want to break up my family, and I don't want H or myself to have to be part-time parents.
If I look at both my parents, and my in-laws, I don't think either is a good example of what to strive for. I don't believe either pair really worked on things. My parents went to C for a while, but I really think it was a case of too little too late - my dad was already out the door, and my mom didn't think she had anything to do with it. MIL has just put up with FIL's controling behavior and sort of taken on the quiet martyr role.
I don't want to become my Mom or my MIL. I want to show my kids that a M is a loving partnership which can bring lots of joy, and is worth all the work. I can only hope that H can find the same goal. But if he doesn't? It's really hard for me to say that D might be an option, even though I have talked about 'exit strategies'...I've sort of felt that having a way out would make my position stronger, but I have a hard time thinking about using it. What bothers me more than a little is that I feel that way because I don't like the idea of my kids growing up in a 'broken home' more than because I love my H so much that I don't want to loose him.
