It sounds like I'm being counseled to split sooner than later. That's a bit scary for me, as my greatest fear would be to not see my kids every day. There has been so much missing from my life for so long that my kids truly are my only joy. (There was one brief period I was happy except for the guilt...but I digress.)
As a side note, my W and I had a real talk last night where I outlined the issues I was no longer willing to "roll over for" (emotional manipulation and control).I have no power to cause them to change and no reason to expect her to change them, but I'm unwilling to let them go without challenge any longer. It wasn't a pretty sight and the "when" question may now be moot.
Thank you for a different POV. I have considered it before, but more from the question of what kind of M example am I providing for my kids than the one you raised. I have some thinking to do.
