If you decide to move on and do things for yourself to make yourselg at lest content with your situation, she may let go of any EC or PC connection that she still has with you. When I started doing things for myself, to self sooth and keep myself from going completely nuts, my H completely cut off any EC with me, even though the PC has been cut off for years. He felt that I had betrayed him by talking to my friends about our problems.
Just wanted to know that this could be a possibile outcome of your actions. I know that you have said that you are going to raise the children with her, but you have many years to go before they are out of school.
This is a tough tightrope to walk. Take your time with your decision making process before you make changes. Sometimes when we take vows with another, they may have intentions at the time to honor those committments, but over time, the willingness to make the marriage work dissappears. It take two working together to make it a success. You cannot make a marriage survive on the strength of just one person.
