Hay Dude! I am 60 and never would consider a mate under 50, preferrably 55 to 63. Those young ladies get pregnant and then you have to think about raising YOUR offspring for another 20+ years. Bin there, done that (BTDT). Grandchildren are much better. You get to play with them for a while and then can give them back to the parents.
By the posts here on SSM, there are a number of mature women who are interested in an intimate relationship. Must be several in the general population too. Back to not getting much.
My W is LD most of the time and tries to blame her LD on aging. I used to buy it, but after reading about women who's H have lost the ability / desire to be sexual with their W's and how upset the wife is with out LM by posting here. I tell my W that "age might be a factor, but I have read several posts here that many women ARE interested in LM, so I do not buy your story 100%.
W also trys tells me "most guys my age need Viagra or have lost interest in LM" and "what's wrong with you, you are too old for that kind of stuff."
To counter W's talk about "being too old" I reply "age is a mental as well as a physical concept" "I feel like I am 35 with more gray hair than normal."
What are your W's LL= love language from the book The 5 Languages of Love by Gary Chapman are: AOS-Acts of Service, G-Gifts, QT-Quality Time, PT-Physical Touch, WOA-Words of Affirmation.
You know you have to give to get. And not all giving gets what you want. I do things for W just because I think any decent person that is a spouse, should have those things done for her.
My W likes foot/back rubs. That gets me the closest to ML. That mights Sound like I bribe W to ML because I gave her a foot rub while watching some "chick" movie that I did note care to watch. It is not a bribe. I do it for her!
Other times I expect to ML without me doing anything special for her because I expect give and take in the relationship.
I recall sevral HDH's on this SSM site posted, Do not whine, state what you expect in a firm, no-naccusitory manner. It works for me sometimes, anyway a little more LM than last year.
OG-Lou who would like to find the "whats fair land" life ain't. But I have PMA.
