Oh geez. Okay Barney, behind door number one, is the reality of Mrs. Barney, but willing or even eager to have sex with you. Behind door number two, is a 20-something, also willing or even eager to have sex with you-- but as a 20 something, needs your wisdom and maturity (read between the lines, father figure and $). Which door do you want?

If door #1 appeals, you gotta do something to reconnect with your W. I just don't think married people do not much have sex, when they aren't connected. You two sound real un-connected.

If Mrs Barney is a good "total package" then work on getting that connection going, and the sex will follow.
If Mrs Barney is not a good total package, then think about why you want to be married to her/have sex with her in the first place.

And by the way, as a HD woman way older than qualifies for your totally tasteless ad.... let me tell you that I am so much better now than when I was 20 it's not even funny.