To keep this up to date...There are definate improvements around here. In the old days, after a blow up like this weekend, H would have moped around for several days, picking at everyone and everything, now things bounced back rather quickly to our friendly state.
One of the things that H has mentioned several times is that he wishes we could talk about neutral topics without getting upset at each other. It made me realize how much I had shut him out with my resentment. We've definately made progress here, even to the point that H will talk to me while we're watching TV, which before was absolutely sacred, and he would get upset if I tried to talk or make a comment about what we were watching.
Last night, the boys met me when I came home, ready for bed, and H came down shortly after. I gave him a hug, tried to give him a kiss and got a cheek...so I jokingly said 'that's not a kiss, and got the boys involved. H finally gave me a kiss, then laughed and wiped it off. Whatever.
Spurred on by HP's post on how ML had improved other areas of their M, I had gone over a convo in the car on the way home...but I'm afraid I chickened out. instead, when we were watching TV, I snuggled up to H, and ran my hand on his thigh. He didn't comment, but didn't push me away either. H started complaining about the show, so I sort of climbed into his lap and said 'You could kiss me instead' and tried to kiss him, but he pulled away. Still, he didn't get upset, or push me off. So I just sat up against him, and left it at that. He waited till after I was asleep to come to bed.
This morning H was a bit nervous, probably because I'm going away for a couple of days, but I did get a friendly hug and kiss when he left for work.
I guess I'll make a point of calling, sending messages while I'm away, but think I better stay in the range of friendly 'till we have another convo.
