heapmom wrote: ------------------ When he started yelling at them about something they couldn't possibly have done, I stepped in, and told him most likely it was me who had done it, so he yelled at me, and here he did use 'old' methods that he knew would get my goat, and a very fused convo ensued, ended with my getting very upset and storming off. ------------------
So, did he apologize to the kids for his wrongful accusation, and to you for treating you like a child?
Also, is there a reason he is permitted or expected to be a tyrant in your home? Otherwise, why would this be acceptable behavior?
Heapmom, at some point, you have to address this basic behavior. You deserve respect as does your husband. Respectful behavior is a lot more conducive to a decent relationship than yelling and screaming. You two can't possibly enjoy an extended emotional connection if you can't stop yelling, screaming and fighting.
I suggest that you learn how to defuse by not participating.
I know you are trying hard. We are all pulling for you! -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
