I think I will agree with you on this one. I can understand your W's position a little, in that I'm living in a 'foreign' culture. It can wear on you, in ways you don't even realize. It's a little like being forced to HOY most of the time.
There are lots of things about this culture I don't agree with, and in many cases it even goes against my integrity - especially now that I'm a parent. Finns tend to take authority at face value, even when it's almost blatently obvious that this person doesn't have your best interest at heart. So when I stand up for myself, or my kids, I'm doing it alone, and sometimes even H can't understand why I feel the need to 'fight'.
I can almost understand, if not agree, with your W keeping your kids in your bed. It may be this is a vestige of her home culture, and if she feels powerless, it may be she holds on to that like a kid holds on to his blanket. 'Course that's only my opinion, and I don't know your W at all.
It does make sense though, if she's getting a chance to prove herself with this real estate deal, and gaining confidence - and you're making headway at the same time.
I know you said your kids attend Japanese school every Sat., do you celebrate Japanese holidays as a family?
