Hi, MM, Thanks for the advice. I abandoned the idea of trading real estate for sex, but W's working on the real estate project does seem to make her much less anxious and more pleasant to talk to.
You might ream me for this, but here goes. I sense a certain immaturity, even childishness in the way my W responds whenever I bring up the subject of sex. She literally whimpers . The real estate project she is embarking on is forcing her to think seriously and to deal with some pretty sharp people, so I think it is helping her to mature. Will this lead directly to more sex? I doubt it. But she will feel more confident in herself, and that is a good thing altogether. Maybe she will begin to face up to her responsibilities in addressing our relationship. And it helps me to trust her more and relinquish some of the control I have insisted on having.
. The real estate project she is embarking on is forcing her to think seriously and to deal with some pretty sharp people, so I think it is helping her to mature. Will this lead directly to more sex? I doubt it. But she will feel more confident in herself, and that is a good thing altogether. Maybe she will begin to face up to her responsibilities in addressing our relationship. And it helps me to trust her more and relinquish some of the control I have insisted on having. 