Hello up north, The first time I went to see a marriage counsellor, alone, the C thought that my W, who is Japanese, was frustrated because of a lack of power. I didn't agree with that; after all, she gives a lot of orders and certainly controls the sexual aspect of the M. But the idea stuck with me. W wanted to invest in real estate, and I didn't want to, because I figured I would have to do all the work. But then I thought, why am I stopping her? I'm just giving her another reason to complain about me. So I said, "Just do it. Buy a townhome." And she's doing it. I'm still doing some of the work, but she has most of the decision making power. And that's fine with me, because of something screws up, she can't come b!tching to me.
I believe that you said you were a musician. Do you earn any money from that? Does H control that money? Your H certainly should not have the right to spend exhorbitant amounts on his "habits."
