Heap ---------------------------------------------------------- H continued to say he couldn't understand what I meant. -----------------------------------------------------------
Sounds like his canned answer to get you off track. Just like barneyfife said, "concrete questions" like 1. How much income did You/Me/WE have last year. 2. What do WE owe on the house, how much is paid on the house, what is OUR equity, how much does the house / apartment cost to operate per month ( payments, utilities, repairs) 3. Automobile expences. 4. Food, enterainment costs. 5. Savings, investments owned, future investments planned or possible investments, get H to name his favorite ONE.
Goal of my post to you. Do you see how his question to your question is just going in circles.
If H is a perfectionist, you might say you need "ball park" answers to the above. If this is a new area for the two of you, H answering only one of the above easier questions would be a start. Just another thought, you do some homework on your own and ask H something you already know the answer to. That way you know how cooperative he is being. Next time you ask H a question he might think he can not put you off by him asking you what you mean.
My W did not want to know the details of finances, just what we have left over so she can go shopping or saying "can we afford ????? a month for ?????". To me that was just as bad as your H not telling you what is going on financially. She is better now, but I can giver her too much information at times.
Too bad one of us on the BB just does not e-mail him and suggest that he should step up to the plate and lay some lovi'n on you, (hugg+kiss+???). Keck, I would even let him correct my spelling and English grammer if it would make him agree to make you happy for an hour. But, I do not want to interfear and mess things up for you and H.
OG Lou "Life is not fair all of the time, but I have a PMA (most of the time)."
