Quote: I think you're also afraid that if you start listening to her spill her guts, she'll never stop, that y'all's (there's that word again!) world will come to a stop while she just sits and complains, AND that if you seem to agree that she is justified in feeling overwhelmed, that YOU will wind up taking on all of her stuff in addition to your stuff, and YOU will wind up overwhelmed.
Lillie, ABSOLUTELY I am, you'd better believe it. I'm afraid I'll end up even MORE overwhelmed and depressed than I already am, and I'll STILL have the messy house and no sex life that I had BEFORE the "come-to-Jesus" session!
I guess I also feel that WE HAVE ALREADY DONE THIS -- probably two dozen times over the past 15 years -- THIS IS NOT NEW! It drives me nuts that my wife always wants to re-hash the same things over, and over, and talk 'em to death, blah-blah-blah... I'm more of a "ok, you KNOW what the problem is -- now go and DO something about it and quit bitching and moaning about it" guy.
In other words, I'm a very understanding husband when it comes to hearing her out over some NEW challenge she's facing, but I have so very little patience for listening to her b.s. about this SAME old challenge ("I feel overwhelmed", "nobody helps me", "I don't know who I am anymore", "we just don't have any FUN/JOY anymore", etc.
