Dazed, thanks for the pep talk. I actually needed to hear that, and have in the past 24 hours already put it to use with the kids, with a "bad grades" problem with one of my daughters. I've been MUCH more forceful and took some leadership, which my DW definitely seemed to appreciate. Thanks!
Interestingly, from my wife last nite, another comment that I would define loosely as "the martyr thing." When I suggested that our daughter be grounded until her grades improved, my wife initially agreed, but then said "but we didn't give her any warning, and I'm sure she has already made plans for this weekend. Maybe we should start it NEXT week...", to which I of course reminded her that it's SUPPOSED to be painful, talked about consequences for the child's actions, etc.
She agreed with me, but said "I guess I'm just tired."
Ugh, that word again.
Choc: What do you mean? Mrs. Choc.: Don't you ever just get tired? Choc.: Tired of what? Do you not agree that this is the right thing to do (with DD)? Mrs. Choc.: Yes, but don't you ever just get tired? I guess I'm just tired of everything. Choc: Everything? Like what? Mrs. Choc.: The rules, the problems, the this, the that... Choc.: Actually, the kids have all been doing extremely WELL in school, and this is the first discipline problem we've had. What are you referring to? Mrs. Choc.: Oh, never mind. You wouldn't understand. You never understand. Choc.: What is that supposed to mean? Mrs. Choc.: Nevermind. I guess I'm just tired, that's all.
I swear, we have these conversations all the time. I work JUST as hard as she does; why is she always "tired" and "beat" and why does she always have to ANNOUNCE it to the family?
Choc., who's tired of his sexy wife being tired all the time.
