Thanks for the thoughtful response. I do think that she in fact wants/needs me to try and be "The Enforcer," but after over 10 years of trying, I guess I've finally given up. I would unilaterally come up with -- or she and I together would work up -- all kinds of chore lists, point systems, etc., over the years. None of them worked, and the reason why is because SHE IS THE ONE THAT IS HOME 90% OF THE TIME, and she would never enforce it! I cannot come home and enforce in just a few hours every evening and then on the weekend what she has not enforced in my absence.
So it wouldn't work anyway, and I would end up being the "bad guy" to the kids, and mom was the "nice" one, and I got tired of it.
But, logically, I KNOW you are right -- she is not capable of enforcing this for some reason.
Choc., who's now a GOOD guy again to his kids, but still gets no sex from his DW.
