Lots going on in your world. I also recommend the Getting Back Together Book, it helped me when H moved back here. Another good book is Dance of Anger, it is about women and anger, mostly the cyclical pattern of anger we tend to have, the anger the boils below the surface Similar to some DB concepts, change one thing and change the cycle.
Watching leaves and bugs sounds like a refreshing change. H does sound like he needles you, is it a preverse type of pleasure on his part? Can you deflate it by agreeing with him and then dropping the subject? Or just keep making those lists of why life is better with H in it.
