You finally get to the point you want to be at and don't know where to go from there. I am very happy for you and I know that you will be able to make your M into the happy one you deserve. He has obviously been wanting to come home! Has your H read DB or DR? Maybe that would help if he is open to it. I know that mine wouldn't be.
Before I got DB and DR I read a book called "getting back together" I don't remember who wrote it and it's in my office right now. It has alot of the same concepts about working on yourself but there are also some relationship goals/values that it makes you write out. It may be a good book, I'm not to that point yet where I actually need that...hopefully someday!
