Hi, My wife does that all the time. She is looking for validation. If it's a matter of purely personal preference on her part, I'll try to get a bead on what she really wants and suggest that. This is relatively harmless. On the other hand, if it's an issue that is important, or that involves you as well, such as moving to another city or his changing jobs, then you need to have an equal say. I'm afraid that if your description of your relationship with H is accurate, you will continue to be unhappy with your self and your marriage. I also adore my W and find it hard to say no to her, but despite my efforts to please her, she does not listen to my pleas for a sexual relationship.
