hi, my name is madfrog, and i am a door mat. now that that's out of the way, like doggie said. Be your own person. Start small and work your way up. Sometimes the little things can make you feel pretty good. Here's an example for ya: this week end we were supposed to put a gate in our fence so that my wife could drive the truck through to make it easier to spread the mulch. I wanted to do it one way, and her another way. Since I was pretty convinced that her way wouldn't work, I rsisted going along with her idea. Last year, I would have just done what she said, or gotten pissed off and told her to do it her own damn self! This weekend I just told her that i would be more than happy to help her do it her way - but if it doesn't work, she was responsible for fixing it. Sounded fair to me. She first thought i was getting pissed, so I made it clear that I was quite calm and not upset. But them were the terms. So we ended up not putting a gate, and I'll help her spread the mulch instead (which I have always been happy to do, except she never asks!)
anyway, just an example where a very small thing makes you feel a little more like your own person, and makes your spouse respect you just a little bit more.
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The differentiation song:
All I want to do
Is be more like me
And be less like you
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