The fact that your H would even listen to you read SSM aloud means that there is a lot of hope for your situation. In addition to SSM you should read "Passionate Marriage" by Schnarch in order to understand what many on the boards are talking about. If you read back a couple days on HeapMom's thread you will see a 5 step plan that I wrote that kind of condensed a lot of theory into some concrete actions. I've been very successful with this approach and so have some others who took similar actions with variations due to their own particular circumstances. You'll get a lot of support on this BB and even some laughs.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
